Thursday, December 15, 2016

A day in the life of a "single" SAHM

There's something about "day in the life" posts that I find inspirational and refreshing. Maybe it's because I'm nosy and I like to know how other mom's manage their days - the SAHM's AND the working mom's! Or maybe it's because I think it's refreshing to learn that more often than not, we are all knee deep in the same struggles of parenthood. 

As most people know, I'm married and have two babies under two years old. Technically, I'm not a single mom however, I consider myself close to it. (Kudos to the true single mom/dads out there!!) My husband "travels" for work and I am home alone taking care of our house, dog, two kids, and everything in between, on my own with little/no help 90% of the time. For example, since I had the baby on August 1st, Michael has only been home 9 days (not including a week off for paternity leave). On almost a daily basis I hear the words "I don't know how you do it." Well spoiler alert my friends, most days I am not quite sure either!

My average day may be a bit different than most that you see/hear about. Which is why I felt compelled to share a little peek into our day. I don't have the glory of counting down the minutes for my better half to get home or the shared household duties such as "I cook, you clean" or "Wednesday is your night to cook dinner" or "Tonight is your night to handle bathtime" or "Can you take out the trash?" or "It's your night to put the kids to bed" or "You watch the kids so I can shower in peace" or "Hey Mom, can you stop by tonight?" Let alone the option for date nights is non exsistent. I think you get the point. I'm not asking for pity, but I hope I can remind others not to take their husband or nearby family members for granted!

I picked a random day to document - Thursday, December 1st. It turned out to be an okay day. I managed to get a few necessary things done which is a major win. Some days go better than others. Some days I accomplish nothing. Some days I feel like I've conquered the world. Most days are filled with tears from all three of us. Most days we don't get dressed or leave the house (because two under two is serious business). But every day that we are all fed and live to see another day - those are all days to be proud of! ;)

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5:43AM - Wake up. I was up with ML at 11:30, 12:30, 2:30, 4, and again now. The question is... will he go back to sleep this time or not... I text Michael good morning. He is on his way to work. After nursing ML, I put him in the swing with hopes he will put himself back to sleep so I can lay back down. Now to hope he goes back to sleep and that R doesn't wake up soon.... 

7:12AM - ML wakes up again. Change diaper. Lay him on the floor. Let the dog outside. Brush my teeth and use the bathroom. Let the dog back inside. Feed her. Lock the gate to the back room of the house. 

7:26AM - R wakes up blabbing away. Usually standing in her crib. I go in and tell her good morning! She laughs, hands me all of her blankies and as many stuffed animals as my arms can hold. I pick her up, set her on the changing pad, change her diaper, carry her to the living room to watch cartoons and give her some water. 



7:31AM - Warm up a bottle for ML. Pour myself a glass of water and take my prenatal and lactation boost vitamins. 

7:42AM - ML refused bottle. Put him in bouncer chair. Pump. Check emails, social media, text Mom and Greg. 

7:55AM - Pumping cut short. R is knocking on all the cupboards in the kitchen (she's hungry) and ML is crying. Pick ML up and get R's breakfast ready - blueberry muffin, yogurt mixed w/ vitamin packet, frozen blueberries and strawberries - and set her at the table in her seat. While she eats, I attempt to give ML bottle again. 

Side note: R's Sesame Street placemat was Michael's when he was a kid! 

8:20AM - Both kids are done eating. ML goes back in bouncer. I clean R up (yogurt everrrrrywhere) and take her down from the table. As usual, she drank her milk and barely ate anything else. I make myself breakfast. Typically egg on avocado toast or scrambled eggs with spinach and mushrooms. ML fusses so I finish making/eating breakfast while holding him. R decides she's hungry again so she eats half my toast. 
We use a lot of paper plates because I still haven't found the box with our real plates in them....

8:45AM - Lay ML on floor. Clean kitchen up. Wash and sterilize bottles. Put pumped breast milk in freezer storage bags. Realize the freezer is full of frozen milk from this week so I decide to take it out to the deep freezer in the garage. While I'm headed that way, I take out the trash. Then while I'm in the freezer putting the milk away, I remember to get some burger out of for dinner. 

9AM - Bathtime for ML since I was too lazy to do it the night before. ML barfs in the bath. Maybe he needs another one? Ugh. Get ML dressed and lay back on the floor. Take the bottle sterilizer out of the microwave since I forgot to. (Almost always forget to do that...)
These hooded towels my Aunt makes for the kids are my favorite! Much better than the thin baby ones. 

9:15AM - My turn to get dressed (aka leggings, fuzzy socks, nursing tank and a sweatshirt), make my bed, brush my hair, and put on a little dab of makeup. R enjoys digging through my makeup bag and helping Mama. ML enjoys looking in the mirror at himself. Most days I honestly don't put on makeup and even when I do, it's pretty minimal. (Moisturizer, BB cream, under eye concealer, blush, curl eye lashes + my fav dry shampoo)

9:30AM - Start a load of laundry. In order to avoid laundry build up, I do at least one load every single day. Turn the TV off. R has been watching Mickey and running around the house all morning. 

9:40AM - Rock ML. Post on Snapchat (justjuliejoy) of course ;) Lay him down in the pack n play in his room. 

10AM - R goes in ML's room and screams/laughs in his face, waking him up. (Hence the reason we are currently learning the "shhhhh baby's sleeping") Put ML in the swing to see if he goes back to sleep on his own. Brush R's hair and teeth. Change her diaper. Quick play time w/ R while ML is content in his swing. Then we vacuum, sweep, and switch the laundry to the dryer. Remi helps with all the above. And of course climbs up onto her mini couch since I moved it up to vacuum. That little dare devil...




10:30AM - ML crying. Take out of swing. Change diaper. Attempt to take his 4 month picture since he's 4 months old today, December 1st! Of course he just wants to roll onto his belly and/or try to peel his sticker off! 

10:50AM - Nurse ML. 

11:15AM - Set ML in bouncer (pink burp cloth to catch his barf). R gets a snack. Spills it all over the floor and steps on it. Vacuum again. ML barfs all over himself. Clean him up. Play time with R while ML sits in my lap. We read books and play with stacking cups and puzzles. We're working on colors, numbers, and ABC's. 

11:40AM - R sits in her booster seat at the table and colors. 

11:50AM - Change ML's diaper. Nurse ML. 

11:55AM - R is done coloring. Stop nursing ML to remove R from the table and clean up crayons. Finish nursing ML. 

12:15PM - Burp ML while making R lunch. He falls asleep so I put him in the swing. R sits at the table for lunch. I review bills and online banking at the table while she eats. Yes, that is the same plate and yogurt from breakfast that she didn't finish... Today she has a PB sandwich, yogurt drops, dried cranberries and raisins, and yogurt. 

12:30PM - R is done eating. As usual, drinks her milk and barely touches the food. I let her run around and get her belly settled before we get ready for naptime. While she independently plays, I wrap up paying bills and eat the remainder of her food. No sense in wasting it, right?!

12:45PM - Head to R's room to read some books. Normally ML isn't sleeping so he sits on my lap and enjoys some reading time too. I change R's diaper. We lay on our belly's and read some books. Someone is full of giggles and is jumping on my back. We finally finish a couple books and I lay R down in her crib. She insists on taking a book to bed with her. I turn on her crib soother and white noise. Give her lots of kisses and tell her how much I love her. 

1PM - Taking advantage of both babies sleeping... so I begin to prep dinner. So much easier to do without a baby in the ergo! Lasagna soup is on the menu. (recipe to come soon!)

1:40PM - While waiting for the soup to boil, I run outside to grab the mail. Literally about the only exercise I get! Ha! I take the dog with me, we run to the road and back to the house as fast as we can since the kids are inside. While both kids are sleeping, I finish dinner (will warm up later), make a couple phone calls, clean the kitchen, grab a snack, fold and put away the laundry.

3PM - ML wakes up. Change diaper. Nurse. 

3:45PM - UPS package is delivered. Go to the door to see what it is. Christmas presents ordered during Black Friday and Cyber Monday! Let the dog outside. 

4:06PM - Michael texts me. He's had a busy day and is just now taking a break to eat some lunch. 

4:10PM - R wakes up. I set ML in the bouncer while I go get her. She has her blankie and gives me a big hug. I change her diaper and we head to the kitchen to make a smoothie for a little afternoon snack. 1/2 chocolate almond milk, 1/2 unsweetened almond milk, flax seed, peanut butter, 1.5 frozen banana, fresh spinach. (These are the only way I can get her to get some extra nutrients!)

4:30PM - ML spit up everywhere. Change clothes and diaper. R is hanging on my leg screaming because she needs help with a toy. Stop to help her. Meanwhile ML spits up all over again. Once he's cleaned up, I lay ML on the floor and the 3 of us have playtime. 

5PM - Finish sides for dinner - garlic toast and steamed asparagus. While those are cooking, I feed the dog her dinner as well. 

5:10PM - R and I sit down to eat dinner. I set ML in the highchair so he can sit with us as well. She is having garlic toast, lasagna noodles from the soup, strawberries, asparagus, and an applesauce pouch.
Even though I made the soup dairy free, I still couldn't resisted topping it with some cheese! 

5:20PM - Dinner is short lived. R doesn't eat much and ML is hungry now too. Nurse ML. 

5:40PM - Play puzzles with R (her current favorite thing to do if you didn't notice) while ML sits in my lap. 

5:55PM - Lay ML on the floor so I can clean the kitchen up and do dishes. Take a couple bites of my remaining cold dinner. We don't have a dish washer so we have to wash and dry dishes. Which is why I do small loads of dishes throughout the day. Makes it easier and faster to accomplish. 

6:15PM - Play with both kids on the floor. R is starting to be a bit sassy as she insists on climbing onto the coffee table. 

6:45PM - Bathtime for R. I say "R are you ready to take a tubby??!" She runs down the hallway to the bathroom and waits anxiously to get in the bath. While in the bath, ML sits in the bouncer. R plays with her toys and hands me the container of bubbles. Once R is washed up, I pick up ML because he doesn't want to sit in the bouncer anymore. Time for R to get out of the bath, she loves when I put the hooded towel on her head. Almost immediately when she gets out she points to her head and says "head". The simple things are just the cutest! I take her to her room to put a diaper on, clean her ears, brush her hair, and put on her PJ's.  


7:05PM - Nurse ML. 

7:40PM - Michael is out of work and calls. While chatting about our day, I change ML's diaper, put on some clean PJ's, give Remi her bedtime cup of milk, and turn on Mickey. Remi holds the phone for a second to say "Hiiiiii" to Dada. 

7:50PM - I hang up with Michael so I can jump in the shower quick while the kids are both content. ML lays on the floor and R sits on her couch watching Mickey. 

7:56PM - Shower is cut short because I can hear ML crying. I get my PJ's on. Pick up ML and give Michael a call back. While talking on the phone and carrying ML, I fill up the vaporizer in R's room and the essential oil diffuser in my room. 

8:20PM - Get off the phone with Michael. Pick up the toys and books around the house (while still holding crabby baby ML). Nurse ML. 

8:30PM - Bedtime for R. Give her her vitamin on our way to her bedroom because as usual I forgot to give it to her in the morning. Read a couple books while ML rolls around on the floor. Put her night time diaper on. Some nights we brush our teeth and some nights I'm a terrible Mom and am just ready for her to go to bed. R insists on ready "just one more" book. 

8:45PM - Tuck R into bed with her blankies and stuffed animals. Turn on the crib music soother, white noise, and vaporizer. Give her lots of kisses and tell her I love her. She makes me kiss her bear too. I pick ML up off the floor and she waves to him and pats him on the head. Lights out for Miss Remi Roo. 

9PM - Nurse ML and watch something on the DVR. Tonight, it's Teen Mom OG. 

9:20PM - Let the dog outside. Get ready for bed. Let the dog back in the house and she gets to stay inside the main part of the house rather than be locked on the other side of the baby gate. Head to bed. Text Michael good night. Pray that ML sleeps longer than an hour.



All in all, my days are currently full of diaper changes (average of 18), nursing sessions (average of 12), lots of dishes (average of 3 per day), lots of spit up and outfit changes, minimal conversations with my husband (or adults for that matter), and most importantly - lots of love and chubby cheek kisses. 




9 comments:

  1. I think I've lost my right to whine about anything ever! You are incredible and I'm so happy my husband doesn't read blogs because he'd be expecting a whole lot more from me. By the way, our daily uniforms are exactly the same; I'm in fuzzy socks, leggings, and a sweatshirt now and every day!

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  2. I love you so much I can't stand it! You rock and just think - you're totally doing this and you are rocking it! Your family depends on you and I'm pretty sure would crumble without ya girl! If we don't plan a girls getaway soon I might die haha I love these posts too just to see what everyone does as well so thanks for sharing! (I'm definitely looking into the vitamin packs you mentioned!) xo

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  3. I know the days seem long right now (and they are!), but you are truly doing such an amazing job with those babies! You are rockin it!!

    Have you ever looked into some kind of moms groups? I don't know how far out you live, but it would be nice to for you to be around other moms who feel the same way!

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  4. How do you do it? Phillip has been going on one trip a month lately (just short ones, less than a week) and I'm dying. He's now afraid to tell me when he has another trip coming up because I've threatened to stab him next time I have to fend for myself.

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  5. You are amazing lady! You are an inspiration and such a good mama!! xx

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  6. Girl I'm with you-I'm not technically a single mom either but same, alone about 95% of the time. It's hard!

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  7. This is pretty crazy to read. You do so much! I hope you are doing okay. I'm sure that's so hard to have your husband gone so often and feel so alone.

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  8. i love day in the life posts of all varieties.. i've never done one because boring life lol. but dang girl, you are a busy mom!! i had no doubt, of course, but seeing it all written out is crazy. you're awesome!!! seriously. don't forget it.

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